I'm Mandi. My husband, David, and I have been married since July 2010 and are the parents of six children. Lucia was born Dec 2011. My pregnancy and delivery were absolutely perfect and healthy so we never imagined we would have fertility problems in our future. But my next four pregnancies resulted in the loss of four children in the first trimester (Francis Michael - 10 weeks, Oct 2013; Julian Gabriel - 10 weeks, Feb 2014; Adrienne Rafael - 4 weeks, Oct 2014; Christian Michael - 9 weeks, Dec 2014). Our son, David, Jr. was conceived one week after I had a laparoscopy surgery to remove endometriosis and he was born in November 2015. His birth in the car, while unconventional and very unexpected, was incredibly healing and an answer to so many prayers after several years of depression due to our losses and a pregnancy full of anxiety.

As Catholics, we accept the Church's teachings on contraception, procreation, and the dignity of all life. (Well, we accept the Church's teaching on everything, but those are the things that apply here.) We also believe in the love of God and that suffering can serve a higher purpose.

I previously blogged at Messy Wife, Blessed Life. You can poke through the archives (there are some real gems over there, especially guest posts in the On Marrying Young and Baby On a Budget series) but I'm not actively writing there anymore.

Most of the photos I use on the blog (unless they are personal photos) are from Unsplash. Blog design by Rhonda Ortiz Design.


  1. Hm, I just tried to leave a comment and I'm not sure if it went through or not so I'll try again.

    Hi Mandi, I've been thinking about you a lot lately and went to your old blog which led me here. I'm so sorry to hear that you've lost four more children to miscarriage. I know all too well the pain of losing a child. I'll be sure to add your family to my prayers.

    I also wanted to reach out to you because my husband just applied to a job with the diocese of Raleigh. If I remember correctly that's where you and David live, is that right? If you wanted to I'd love if you could email me anything you can about the diocese and how you like living in Raleigh. I'm specifically interested in how much it would be to rent a 3 bedroom townhome or house and other costs of living. I would also love to offer you any support you need through your miscarriages. If you ever want to "talk" or have any specific prayer requests, please feel free to email me. Big hugs.

  2. Mandi, I found you in the comments on Mama Loves Coffee this morning. I am praying for you! I have had two miscarriages so I know a little of what you are talking about, but not really. I run a blog called Conversation with Women that consists of anonymous posts contributed by guest bloggers about their struggles, but ultimately the joy they have found in living church teaching. Would you please check it out and consider contributing in order to support others in your situation?

  3. I am so sorry about your losses. I have lost 5 babies to miscarriages and no living children.