tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1776768376583820519.post4474598026709760016..comments2023-09-05T05:40:14.634-07:00Comments on a blog about miscarriage: What is Good, What is DifficultMandi Richardshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14641577291206420549noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1776768376583820519.post-23056116262613968822015-01-31T16:05:07.054-08:002015-01-31T16:05:07.054-08:00I think sometimes big family life is hard (I have ...I think sometimes big family life is hard (I have six kids) but I try and look at the positives because I know that marriage and children are blessings, as do you. Writing about the good parts of small family life doesn't mean big families need to share their struggles, just as big families sharing their joys doesn't mean small families need to always display their struggles. And I have written about some of the struggles (always abstaining in nfp, financial worries, emotional needs, etc) but honestly I try not to because my kids will be able to read it one day and I don't want them to feel unloved. Blogs are usually just highlight reels, like getting a Christmas card with a newsletter full of all the highs from the past year. Nobody wants to read a negative, complaining, put-all-the-trash out on the front lawn kind of post everyday, right? I think most of us are just trying to be thankful for the hand we've been dealt, and focus on the positives. I pray for you and your babies all the time.Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1776768376583820519.post-23304023868749178092015-01-20T09:43:08.581-08:002015-01-20T09:43:08.581-08:00Right on! Honesty about hard things can be, well, ...Right on! Honesty about hard things can be, well, hard. Your second paragraph made me think of my favorite quote from "A League of Their Own," when Dottie is quitting the team:<br /><br />Dottie: It just got too hard.<br />Coach: Hard? Of course it's hard! If it wasn't hard, anyone would do it. The hard is what makes it good!<br /><br />As Christians, somehow the good is smack dab in the middle of the hard.Bethanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1776768376583820519.post-17114942426172317172015-01-19T17:17:09.119-08:002015-01-19T17:17:09.119-08:00What a beautiful post. I just wanted to say hello ...What a beautiful post. I just wanted to say hello and tell you how much encouragement and amazing honesty I find in your posts--both in your previous blog and in this one. I've always found your writing about fertility and loss to be the first thing I go to when someone I know has experienced a new loss or asks me for resources. Although I'm grateful to have had no known miscarriages so far (with infertility there's always the obsession and constant wondering whether you've lost a child before implantation or before a positive test,) I've always identified with something in your writing through all of our years of infertility. Somehow your writings and resources for pregnancy loss helped me to wrestle with and grieve the pregnancies I desperately longed for but couldn't have...maybe grieving them as imaginary pregnancies was more healing than just grieving the emptiness? Either way, I've always wanted to thank you for what you do and for keeping much of your past writings public. You'll never know what they've done for me. I know you don't know me, but you and your entire beautiful family are in my prayers often.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com